The Biggest Impact I Hope to Have on my Child

What’s the most important thing you hope your children learn from you?

My hope is that Omari learns how to seek after God for himself and that he will come to have a personal relationship with Christ.

This world is gonna eventually smack him around like it has done all of us, but for me my relationship with God keeps me grounded, it keeps me from being completely shaken and broken. I hope as he is growing up, and when the trials of the world come he can remember seeing me fight…. Not with my own strength but with the strength of my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Air Travel with Small Kids

I just want to say… going on a trip with children is not for the faint of heart lol

Shoutout to all the moms who are traveling with their kids this summer!

Packing all the kids clothes (and yours), getting the kids on the plane or in the car, being on snack duty, planning all the activities and having the energy to keep up with the kids!

I see you mom! We see each other! in my Nene Leakes voice LOL

Here are some tips others gave me that I put into practice.

1. Bring lots of snacks!

2. Download shows from YouTube and Netflix onto some sort of device

3. Have a bag where you have easy access to diapers/pull ups and wipes (I did have to handle a poop situation 😩🥲🤣). Also have easy access to your ID and birth certificates for the little ones

4. If you are traveling with a stroller practice breaking it down quickly and possible with one hand. You will have to do this through security and at the gate (possibly even to get in a shuttle around the airport)

5. Give Zyrtec before the flight to help with ear popping (other medications work as well; please google)

Some other tips I got, but didn’t have to use were

1. Bringing snacks for the adults as well!

2. For older kids bring gum or gummy candy to help with ear popping

3. Small activities to keep kids busy such as small coloring books

4. A change of clothes for each kid. (I forgot this but luckily I didn’t need it… don’t be like me… bring the extra set lol)

5. Have kids in matching colors and possibly light up shoes to make them easier to track

Enjoy your vacation!!

Feeling Like You’re Failing as a Parent

I often have these thoughts that I’m not doing enough for my son, thoughts like “if you didn’t do this” or “if you did this more” plague my mind constantly.

Sometimes people tell you you’re doing a great job but you don’t always believe them and sometimes people tell you you’re doing a terrible job with your child and you believe them every time. (Why is that?…)

The only thing I have been able to do to combat these thoughts is to talk to God about it.

Praying raw, real prayers, asking him to help me with these thoughts and feelings of inadequacy and asking him for wisdom to parent the way he wants me to.

I tell people all the time that parents don’t always know what they are doing. The parental instinct does kick in for some more than others but honestly we’re all winging it.

My child is nothing like I imagined. The things that I like he doesn’t like, the things I thought we would do together we don’t…. I really had to come to grips with that reality.

I don’t think I’ll ever have all the parenting answers but I know that if I let God lead me and love Omari as God loves the both of us then God will get the glory and honestly that’s what it’s all about for me.

The Shift in My Perspective on Motherhood

Before I became a parent I had this idea of the mother I would be, how my children would be, all the things we would do together, etc.

Fast forward to me actually being a mother and I’m not sure if it’s exactly how I expected it would be.

I think I expected it to be easy to teach Omari, that he would be this perfect little child that did everything perfectly and that’s just not how life is.

I’m learning that Omari does not belong to me, he belongs to God and that I need to throw these little “plans” I had out the window and let God have his way.

Often we can’t see God’s plan but I find great comfort in knowing he has one and that I just need to be in position and play my part.

Omari will be fine, he will be great, God knew him before he even put him in my womb and he has great plans for him. Amen.